Friday, August 29, 2014

Bestie meet-up!

First let me take a selfie!

Finally the Bestie meet-up!!! It's been 3 months since we last meet, I really miss you so much! Life been really so difficult for me as I'm married and I have so less time with my friends. We both have different life-style now. You busy with your outings and I'm busy with my little one. Anyway luckily we made it , a perfect lunch & tea time together. We don’t need to talk to every single day. We don’t even need to talk to each other for weeks, but when we do, it’s like we never stopped talking.
 Lunch at the newly open TCC. 
and we spend rest of our time at "Upstairs cafe" 
Everything changes & nothing stays the same but as we grows one thing does remain the same. That is I was with you before and will be till the end and nothing could ever replace you as my Bestie!

Sunday, August 24, 2014

是否有產前、產後憂鬱?!

Couldn't resist but to copy and share this , its from a model / public figure Gracetw , posted this whole thing just totally suit my whole feeling and what I've been thru. Dont ever say girls/women are weak , when we fear but we often conquer our fear and go thru everything. The moment my children were born, I was changed forever. I grow daily as a mother thanks to them I've learn to realize the strengths I didn't know I had, and dealing with fears that I didn't know existed. Reading this just got me into tears and also feel proud of myself that I've already been strong until today that I'm about to have my second child.

今天有人問到,
是否有產前、產後憂鬱?!
該如何排解?
說實在的,第一次當媽媽,
到了快生產時,很難不焦慮不憂鬱,
擔心的太多了,

我從要生的前2個禮拜,光想到要生產就緊張到睡不著,

要生的前一天(我是剖腹產)

緊張到一直拉肚子⋯
從入院開始眼淚止不住的狂掉,
還因為太過緊張點滴爆血,
永遠記得在第一次抱到偷筆時,
我手裡還捏著入院後一直抓著的衛生紙

產後,光母奶就能讓憂鬱症大爆發 ,
追奶量以及母奶資訊不夠正確與混亂。理智線很容易一口氣像切蛋糕般的斷光光⋯(拭淚)
特別是夜深人靜時,
自己奮鬥擠奶,那時會突然陷入回憶錄裡,不是不久前還是個爹娘疼愛的寶貝女兒,怎麼現在學習怎麼愛自己的孩子當人家的媽媽,
一邊擠奶越想越是委屈,忍不住又會偷哭耶。
那種孩子出生。對於自己是否能作為一個好母親的無形壓力瞬間都會壓在身上。
當然這些跟身上賀爾蒙劇烈改變有關,真的家人的關心與體諒是最重要的!
尤其在月子時,初為母親的我們會異常的神經質,
家人與朋友,多些關心,
少些「自以為」的教導,
(那種啊,有什麼好哭的、好難過的。基本上講這些就跟你對著精神病患說為什麼你是神經病一樣,
一點幫助都沒有,真的,少對剛生完,情緒脆弱的媽媽說這種風涼話)
而老公們,
必須要有更多的關懷,
幫太太跟自己的媽媽好好的溝通。
大多月子時的憂鬱,
都是婆婆、媽媽給媳婦無形的加壓,
讓產婦們更加嚴重!
這個敏感時刻,就請家人們多順著產婦,體貼陪伴才是真正「幫」我們坐月子的真諦啊!
而陷入憂鬱的媽媽們,
不要為了因為「憂鬱」而感到困擾或鑽牛角尖,
就想著只是個非常正常的賀爾蒙轉變時的現象,
想哭就哭,千萬別把情緒悶著,
做點自己會開心的是,
不用像以前古早期那麼痛苦,
想洗澡就去洗,讓自己舒服自在,
看看喜劇~敷敷臉都行。
用正常的心態去面對它

就不會陷入「嚴重」憂鬱裡囉~
最後⋯還是貼心提醒老公們⋯
真的就多體諒多體貼一些,
這時就把老婆當太上皇伺候著吧!

套句老吳那時常說的,
「X2夾著也得要去執行啊!!」

Friday, August 22, 2014

Mummy bday dinner @ Elcerdo , KL

21 August 2014
To a beautiful, kind, thoughtful and great Mom on her birthday. I love you. 
Happy birthday to my Queen !

So again all of us gather together to have some quality family dinner , together with the little one too. This year we choosen El cerdo. El Cerdo carries the meaning Pork in Spanish. El Cerdo is one of the best spanish food & pork restaurant in Changkat, KL. They are famous of pork knuckle & suckling pig.
What a cute set up
Let's have a toast to the pretty birthday lady. 
Wish you healthy and happy always!
 my beloved precious family 
I love you my KING & QUEEN!


Tuesday, August 19, 2014

The Good Batch @ Uptown Damansara

Everyone woke up early today so we decided to go out and have breakfast together with the little one too! First visit to The Good Batch after reading raving review on its all day breakfasts and it did not disappoint us. The Good Batch is one of those places you want to tell friends about the moment you've finished your meal. The food choices are limited after a few visit but the service is always friendly and inviting. Worth a try!
Parking here is a nightmare, I would suggest looking for a parking space behind the restaurant instead.

The Good Batch
53, Jalan SS 21/1a
Damansara Utama